All travelers to the various erotic resorts have what I like to call “sexpectations”. It is exactly these “sexpectations” that will influence their choice of resort, week and or group, and ultimately whether or not the adventure is a memorable one.
Sex-pec-ta-tions
- The act or state of expecting : anticipating sexual adventures
- Basis for expecting : assurance of sexual adventures
- Prospects of experiencing sex
While everyone has sexpectations, like fantasies, they are not all the same. Although there are an endless number of variables and sub fantasies we can look at the sexpectations of the majority of our travelling couples in three primary categories.
Adventure Travelers (voyeurs) - Those seeking to be immersed in an erotic, sexually charged atmosphere to enhance and recharge their own sexuality and relationship. They are excited, even aroused by being in an erotic atmosphere, but do not want to play with anyone other than their own mate.
Virgin Explorers - Couples who are relatively (or even completely) new to the lifestyle. They have obviously talked with each other about expanding and experimenting with their relationship, which led them to choosing this vacation. Typically, they view the open and free atmosphere of a clothing optional or nude resort that’s far away from home as a great venue to experiment. They are more relaxed about the prospect of playing with others in a vacation set in a foreign country, surrounded by strangers that they might never see again.
Seasoned Lifestylers - You know who you are, you may never have been to a lifestyle resort or you may have a tree at Hedo II (for those that do not know when you visit Hedo II 25 times they plant a palm tree with your name- there is a dentist that has 3!). Either way you are there to party.
(note that I purposely left nudists off this list, as they generally take a more judgemental approach to sexuality and thus do NOT mesh well with lifestylers)
Balancing Sexpectations
So how do you balance your Sexpectations and what is realistic to anticipate? As you can imagine they are different for each of the groups above; and the three groups are able to live in peaceful harmony at the same time at the same resort.
With that said, depending on your category and your sexpectations, there certainly might be different resorts and weeks where you are more likely to find more of your species!
This is where lifestyle travel agents work most closely with our travelers, helping them to select the right resort and the right week to allow them to realize and fulfill their sexpectations. Which resort is best? Should they just go on a normal week, or should it be a group week? How long should they go for? These are just a few of the factors to consider.
Of course, as is always the rule, there is never any pressure to do something you may not be comfortable with. If anything, they might have to be a little more open and forward in making your desires known or you may find yourself left totally alone out of other peoples respect for your space. Now I am not saying you need to wear a hat that says “come fuck us” (although some have recommended that) but you do have to present yourselves as friendly, flirty, and using body language that indicates you are up for some fun.
So, in short, think about your sexpectations, discuss them with your partner, then do it again and then do it again (as always, communication is the key). Then, when working with your favorite travel professional, don’t be afraid to tell them what category you fall into and detail your Sexpectations……it will pay off with the best vacation of your life.
