Ok, you have all seen the group rooms at various clubs. Many have explored it, but in reality, the majority have only looked… And don’t lie; even if you are 100% sure it is not for you, I’ll bet you still look!
For many, the group room and the activities that go on there offer a combination of excitement and fear, curiosity and apprehension, and finally, erotic allure and insecurity.
Now there is no doubt that group sex is not for all and for many not for every play time. Some love it on a regular basis and others enjoy the occasional taste of the forbidden fruit.
The category of swingers I would like to address today probably makes up the largest percentage of our community, namely, those who are intrigued, excited and curious but “would never do that.”
This is where I refer back to my previous article “Guilt Free Vacation Sex”, where we explored the “phenomenon of liberation from conventionality and societal norms when on vacation.” This is true in the vanilla world and also the lifestyle community. At home in your regular club, believe it or not, you can be very self conscious because you know many of these people and can’t imagine having group sex and everyone seeing!
Vacations offer a release from the ties that bind you (oh… maybe that is a different article ) where it is much easier to let loose and experiment. You may try that group sex experience and absolutely love it, hate it, or take or leave it. No matter which one describes your experience, you will be enriched for trying it.
After all, new experiences and sensations is the reason most are in the lifestyle to begin with. I will say that the vast majority of those I have spoken to that have taken the leap into experimentation with group sex fall into one of two categories:
• Love it and can’t get enough
• Love it but prefer to participate on occasion
So what does play in the group room entail, and what are some basic etiquette rules? Well, much to the surprise of many, group room play does not necessarily mean an all out orgy with everyone in the room.
As a matter of fact, it rarely does. Generally, it ranges from a couple playing with each other amongst a group, often with some soft caressing from a neighbor, to sex with another couple that is next to you, to sex (full or soft swap) with a small group of six to eight people.
Basic Rules:
• The #1 rule: “No Means No,” period. End of story.
• Never touch or engage another unless invited to, or after asking permission.
• An invitation to caress is not an invitation for intercourse- keep asking and go slow.
• After your group has had its orgasms, during which time you can scream as loud as you want (the louder the better), shut up. The couples on the other side of the room that are trying to get in the mood or enjoy their climax do not want to hear you discussing your grocery list or your kid’s ballgame. When you are done, quietly leave the room to enjoy the afterglow and conversation with your new friends, unless of course you are working up to round three.
• Bring a little play bag with you into the room. It should have condoms, lube, wipes, and mints. In the heat of the action you do not want to be hunting down these items.
Finally, vacation is the best time to explore the deepest corners of your fantasies. You may love it or not, you may find a new sensation to experience over and over or you may never do that again. But you will be happier for having explored it in the safe and comfortable setting of a vacation.
