I always read and hear how highly prized us single girls, aka Unicorns, are in the lifestyle. People often say we’re elusive, but we’re not; I notice that literally every single day more and more single girls sign up on Kasidie. We’re here for friends, and we’re here for sex, so we should be the proverbial candy in the store for all the kids, right? But somehow that just isn’t true.

My experience, echoed by single girls in every state, is we don’t get a daily deluge of email and offers. Sure, some of us are on Match.com, Chemistry.com and even SugarDaddy.com (why the hell not!). Some of us would love a boyfriend. Some of us even have boyfriends (and/or even approving husbands). Some of us are just busy with life and don’t want the entanglements of a relationship. But we’re all here for a reason – we love the openness of the lifestyle, we love the people and the friendships, and we’re horny.

Unlike single guys we are almost always welcomed to the party. I’ve yet to see an invitation say “no single girls”. So we come, we drink, we talk, we laugh… yet we often end up going home to our vibrators.

What’s going on with that! I’m up for a threesome. I’m up for a twosome. I’m up for a moresome. I’m young, I’m attractive, and I’m as sexually open as it gets!

I know that sometimes it comes down to the female half of a couple not being comfortable. It’s one thing to talk and fantasize about having a threesome with a single girl, it’s another to actually do it. Insecurities come out. I’ve been in situations where a guy I was flirting with gets dragged off in a huff by his wife or girlfriend, even when we’d all been exchanging emails beforehand. Hey ladies, I’ve got news for you, I may be interested in his cock and his muscles tonight, but I really do understand that he’s all yours.

Sometimes the girl half isn’t bisexual or isn’t interested in an FMF with her guy (let alone an FFM, my personal favorite). So she nixes any playtime. Or they are a couple that will only play together, and if she’s not interested in me and there are no single guys at the party and no other couples that have a guy that she’s interested in and who do play separately, the situation goes cold (sheesh this gets complicated!).

I suppose sometimes people are simply reluctant to reach out. They assume we unicorns have our inboxes overflowing with offers couples and single guys, so they decide to do the thoughtful and polite thing and leave us alone . Unfortunately, it’s these thoughtful and polite people that we actually WANT to contact us.  Otherwise we might end up like the girl sitting alone at the bar, wondering why only the insensitive or rude creeps ever hit on her.  We always appreciate a tastefully polite and friendly email saying “hello.”  That’s not to say we’ll agree to any and all propositions, we all have our preferences.

My only rule is “no cheating”. There are other sites for that, and I’m not on them. I don’t want drama, or the headaches and problems that come from that. I’m sexual, and here in the happy place called Kasidie where people communicate, socialize and play fair.

So take a chance and say hi. I’m here for the same reason you are; great friendships with open-minded people, and if things go well, some physical fun.

Hello? Are you out there? Let’s make this “be nice to unicorns week!” Take a chance and send us a note!